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Separation and Divorce: Before and After

Updated: Sep 27, 2021

BEFORE: If a couple recognizes that they are not in alliance anymore and have drifted too far apart, the next question for them is: What should their first steps be?

  1. It often starts with the ex-couple ‘coming out’ to their family and friends, that ‘they’re over’ and the tips, comments and advise they receive from them won’t end.

  2. The next go-to place is the internet: billions of websites, experts, blogs, videos, face-book groups etc…. It can be very overwhelming!

  3. For some reason all this does not perfectly match their particular situation as their story IS different and unique. It is personal and very, very private: nobody knows EVERYTHING about their relationship - which is a good thing.

  4. The ex-couple would like to talk about THEIR options and learn how to de-tangle the ties they no longer want to have, and want to choose a fast and cost-effective option that truly solves their problems in a respectful way.

I can help! I meet with ex-couples, often together, and discuss options. I give un-biased information; explain routes they can choose from helping to detangle the process and explain what it actually entails. There are pros and cons to everything and different levels of involvement and costs. The choice is the ex-couple’s one, most likely one of the last ones they make together.

AFTER: Some people feel like being ‘spat out’ at the end of the separation/divorce process. They feel like they are still spinning and don’t know where to start. It seems like there is still so much to do, many more decisions to make but all they want is rest and not have to think anymore.

Those are individuals I can help get organized and make decisions which will have the positive impact they are looking for: getting to a point in their future where they know they want to end up financially. Ultimately money is the gas in our tank to get us where we’d like to be, almost everything seems to be connected to it, and a decision today impacts tomorrow 100%.

As Elvis said: “If things go wrong, don’t go with them,” and as I always say: Consider the Outcome.

For more information and a free 20-minute consultation, contact Bettina Plendl today. This can be done virtually due to Coronavirus concerns.

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